Thursday, July 31, 2014

What's your Essence

“I believe that each of us has an essence, a quality at the very core of our being that makes us who we are. It’s what sets us apart from everyone else. And I believe that finding ways to express that essence is one of the greatest joys in life.” – Oprah for “O” Magazine, 2012

I didn’t always know what my essence/passion was. The desire to figure it out never came until after I graduated from college and started working at an advertising agency. Right from the start I knew the job wasn’t for me, but I took it because I needed the money. 

My job did not feed me in any way other than physically; I didn’t grow or learn anything while I was there. I was so unfulfilled that I dreaded going to the office. While there I would go through the motions of doing the mundane duties that were required, and still managed to advance. With that, my paycheck continued to increase, but as we all know, money does not buy happiness. 

Tuesday, July 29, 2014

Material Girl: Summer Favs!

If you've been following this Material Girl series then you've probably noticed I'm an accessories kind of gal. So it only makes sense that some of my favorite things this summer include super reasonably priced purses and jewelry. Most importantly these items are not only summer friendly, but will also transition well into fall.

Thursday, July 24, 2014

Mi Pollera Tan Bonita

Dressed in a large colorful flowing skirt and top, tons of jewelry, and a head full of gold and pearls is how I spent many Saturdays of my childhood. And even though I was accustom to wearing mi pollera, I had no idea how significant it was to my parent’s home country of Panamá.
My parent’s generation was the first to come to the U.S., and they did their best to teach my generation about Panamá’s history and culture. That involved all the kids learning and performing Panamanian Típico dances.
Tamika_Burgess_Mi_PolleraPanameña Tamika Burgess grew up performing Panamanian Típico dances (Image: Tamika Burgess)
Twice a month mi mamá and mis tías gathered everyone together to learn Típico and various things about Panamá. All of us kids dreaded spending our Saturdays doing this. We were young, so the importance of what we were learning didn’t matter to us.
After months of practicing we learned full dance routines and started performing at cultural events. For these performances we wore traditional Panamanian clothing: polleras for the girls, montunos for the boys.
Mi pollera was orange and white, and was trimmed with dark green ribbon. With detailed embroidery and handmade lace; la pollera is an off the shoulder blouse and a two piece skirt. Wearing mi pollera was like playing dress-up; it was the only time mi mamá would let me wear lipstick. Adding to the playing dress-up fantasy was all the gold jewelry that I got to wear.
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Tuesday, July 22, 2014

When Women Get Desperate For Love- Should We Settle?

When it comes to our hair, nails, education and career us women demand the best for ourselves. Yet for some reason when we hit our late 20's and early 30's desperation for our mister right makes us settle for a random mister right now. Why do we do this? If we are not compromising on other things, why compromise on the person we intend to spend the rest of our lives with?

Even though we know settling is not ideal, many of us go through a phase where we contemplate settling or we willingly decide to settle. One of the main reasons we do this is because everyone around us is either in a relationship or is married. Instead of waiting for or seeking out the man we want, we get desperate and enter into relationships just to say we’re in one.

Friday, July 18, 2014

I'm Not A Club Girl and It's Okay

Having lived in NYC for almost two years now, I’m proud to say I haven’t been to any clubs. Lounges, bars, and house parties, absolutely. But clubs just don’t appeal to me. And to be completely honest, they never really have.

My 19th birthday brought about my first club experience. I had a good time dancing and meeting new people. But after the night was over, I didn't have the overwhelming feeling of wanting to go back; so I never did.

That was until I went to college in Los Angeles. With Hollywood being only 30 minutes away, clubbing was a must, and it quickly became a Thursday-Sunday activity. I fell into the habit of going for one reason: I thought it was what I was supposed to do.

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Thursday, July 17, 2014

4 Healthy Additions For Your Daily Routine

Seems like people are more aware of the things they are drinking and eating now more so than ever before. So with the recent onslaught of going vegan, and eating organic or natural; I took some time to research the benefits of making a few healthy additions to my daily consumption. Out of all my research the following four are the additions that I have incorporated. 

1. Apple Cider Vinegar Drink: Mixing two tablespoons of organic Apple Cider Vinegar into a glass of water is simple, and actually doesn’t taste that bad. After drinking it for a few weeks, I am use to the vinegar smell and I have no problem drinking the mixture. 

+ Maintains proper body pH balance
+ Helps clear up skin blemishes
+ Regulates blood pressure
+ Contains acid that acts as anti-fungal and anti-bacterial

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Tuesday, July 15, 2014

What's The Best Solution For This?

I'm so conflicted on this whole immigration situation that is currently taking place along Mexican-U.S. boarders. I still don't know/understand all the details, but every day I watch CNN's coverage of this and I honestly don't see how the situation will ever get better.

I grew up in Murrieta, CA- the city that seems to be having the most resistance toward the immigrants being bused in. And as someone whose parent's migrated here from a Central American country, I can understand each group's side of the issue.

Thursday, July 10, 2014

Food For Thought ~ Part 3

  1. When someone tells you, “You’ve changed,” it might simply be because you’ve stopped living your life their way.
  2. Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.
  3. Be happy.  Be yourself.  If others don’t like it, then let them be.  Happiness is a choice.  Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.
  4. When you’re up, your friends know who you are.  When you’re down, you know who your friends are.
  5. Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.
  6. If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn't eat him.
  7. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.
  8. The smallest act of kindness is worth more than the grandest intention.
  9. Many people are so poor because the only thing they have is money.
  10. Learn to appreciate the things you have before time forces you appreciate the things you once had.

Tuesday, July 8, 2014

Having The Confidence to Go Out Alone

“What would people think? Would they assume I was lonely and had no friends?” These questions ran through my mind one night as I texted several friends to see if they were free for the evening.

I had been craving a nice meal all week and when I couldn’t find anyone to go to dinner with, I started entertaining the idea of going alone. But when thoughts of what other people would think and say about me popped into my head, I quickly banished the idea, eventually ordering a pizza and staying in for the night.

This was my life four years ago. Back then I applied that way of thinking every time I wanted to go somewhere. Whether it was to a restaurant, the movies, a museum or anywhere else, if I didn’t have anyone to go with, I wouldn’t go. I was truly afraid of what others thought of me. And that way of thinking caused me to miss out on a lot of things that I wanted to do. 

Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Learning to Have Female Friendships

“I can’t trust a woman that doesn’t have close female friends.” I overheard a woman say while I browsed through Macy’s shoe department. I looked around and saw a woman looking at shoes as she talked on her cell phone. Although her comment was not directed at me, I cringed because she was in fact talking about me.

At the time I was 26 years old and didn’t have a solid group of girlfriends. But did that make me untrustworthy? The lady on her cell phone didn’t know me or my situation, but what she said that day stayed with me for a while.  

I grew up in a small tight-knit community and the friendships I made in elementary school lasted throughout high school. So when I got to college and had to make new friends, I figured friendships would form naturally as they did so many years prior. But college was different. Throughout my four years there I experienced a bunch of back-stabbing and cattiness with so-called female friends.

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

Proyecto Más Color

Last Saturday I attended the 2nd Annual Afro-Latino Festival in Brooklyn!!! While there I had the pleasure of meeting two sisters who started a Campaign called Proyecto Más Color (Project More Color). This is an awareness campaign to promote more representation of Afro-Latinos on such Spanish networks as Telemundo and Univision.